Worthy of Wealth
“”The greatest success is successful self-acceptance.”
~ Ben Sweet
Why focus on feeling worthy with regards to wealth? Because a life lived to the fullest—including being wealthy—begins with you.
Of course, my personal belief is that there are larger forces at work to co-creatively support us in the experience of wealth and prosperity. It is therefore important to understand that Source Energy is your Source. But you are the alpha and the omega for transforming your life. You are the one who has the power to align with positive thinking. You have the capacity to compassionately monitor your emotions. You can choose to practice behaviors to enhance your life.
Most importantly, your journey to increase your trust that you truly deserve what you most desire begins with a realization. The realization is that when you love yourself just the way you are then you are a match to what you want. This acknowledgement of your inherent good means practicing extreme self care and nurturing yourself. It means discovering how authentically powerful it is to be responsible for your life. It means a willingness to let go of the old patterns of thinking and emotions that are based in shame, blame, denial or embarrassment. Honoring yourself in this way will serve you no matter whether it’s more money you want or peace of mind about the money you have.
Many people often equate their self worth with their net worth. Perhaps you are blessed to feel at peace in this regard. But more often than not, as Deborah Price writes in her book Money Magic:
“most of us feel trapped or measured by money; leaving the self alone and unaccounted for. Since we often do not feel good about our net worth, we internalize that feeling by devaluing our self worth.” And having more money may not be the answer either. I have had quite a few clients over the years who are burdened with thoughts of lack and limitation no matter how much is in their bank account. As suggested in Money Magic, equating what we have accumulated financially with our value is a painful way to live.
The truth is that no one has ever had a money problem. It is what we think about money and how we feel about having it or not having it that can cause our suffering. Our sense of worth related to money and wealth is intimately connected to the internal messages we run about ourselves. Deep down you may feel you don’t deserve what you want. You may not feel good enough, smart enough, capable enough to earn the money you want or manage it effectively. You may feel fear when it comes to paying bills and balancing your check book. You may think that money is the root of all evil. You may believe that you can’t be wealthy and be a good person or a “spiritual” person. These kinds of restrictive beliefs are often instilled by our early childhood and cultural conditioning. We must have the willingness to move beyond these stories from our programming. We are so much more than these limiting stories we tell ourselves
There is another concept that is helpful to consider in shifting your sense of worth related to money. We all have a subconscious money set point that is akin to an internal financial thermostat for how much money and success we can allow into our lives.
If deep down you are more of an energetic match for any limiting beliefs you may have about money, then the Universe can’t deliver what you desire beyond the ceiling that you’ve set for yourself based on your beliefs. Activating the universal Law of Attraction is what we are talking about here. It states that “like attracts like.” As Wayne Dyer would say: “You can’t attract prosperity and success from thinking you are poor and a failure.” Energy follows awareness and the focus of that awareness.
Whatever we put our attention upon will expand. If we focus on what’s not working and how bad we feel about ourselves, we become emotionally bankrupt and we are not a match to wealth. If we focus on what’s working in our lives and how we truly value ourselves, then that is what will expand.
When it comes to money, a very real way to be problem free is to have an intimate, loving, compassionate and honest relationship with yourself. Back up this kind of healthy self esteem with behaviors of competently taking care of your money, then you are golden. Your true worth embodied is your fundamental passport for manifesting what you most want in life and for savoring it when you have it.
Some ideas for boosting your self worth:
1) Mirror exercise (from Arnold Patent’s You Can Have It All):
Each day look in the mirror, face yourself and say out loud: ‘I unconditionally love and support myself just the way I am.’ This may seem awkward at first, but try it. It works.
2) Create your own Acknowledgement Journal (inspiration from colleague Natalie Helms):
In this journal, write down all the appreciation you receive from family, friends, colleagues, strangers. Record the stories around each compliment you receive. Allow in this recognition. Read this journal when you are feeling vulnerable.
3) Meridian tapping to release limiting beliefs (a gentle form of acupressure that you can practice yourself):
Above your left breast, feel underneath your collarbone toward your shoulder, locate the tender or sensitive spot. If you can’t readily find the spot, simply rub that area under your collar bone near the shoulder in a gentle circle with 3 fingers. While rubbing the spot, say out loud:
‘Even though I may feel I don’t deserve money and wealth, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I forgive myself.’ Repeat this statement 3 times. Then hold the spot and breathe deeply in and out. Check within and see how you feel. Try this process as often as you like. Notice any changes in your sense of well being over time.
“What’s right with me is the starting point
What’s wrong with me is beside the point”
~Uranda