Be A Chooser, Not a Reactor
“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”
~ J K Rowling, author of the Harry Potter books
It can be tempting to be disheartened by the current climate of challenges regarding the state of the global economy, environmental concerns, the war in Iraq, political debates, and your own unique troubling personal issues. Any discontent you might be feeling can be exacerbated by the gloom and doom in our media, emails that warn that the “sky is falling” or even well meaning people in your life who want to commiserate from a glass half empty point of view.
Now I am sure there are those of you who are not feeling this way because all is well. You have anchored the experience and the feeling state that life is basically good. May you continue to be blessed and we celebrate you.
But for those of you feeling discouraged, the clarion call to inspired action that I want to stand for in these shifting times is brilliantly described in this meditative thought from Dr. Michael Beckwith (who appeared in the movie, The Secret):
“I want you to wake up today ! If you believe that you will be complete after you find the right relationship, the better job, the bigger house, that hotter investment, the accomplishment of a particular goal, you are asleep in the human dream of Maya, which is the sleep of human delusion.
Any such fulfillment is only temporary. The quest of looking for wholeness outside of yourself is not the way it works. It’s an inside job !”
Yes !! It IS an inside job and the time is now to wake up to what that means for you as an opportunity. I know it seems counter-intuitive to shift from a belief that some external solution - such as the relationship, the job, the right place to live, more money, a better looking body, etc - will fix your pain. But the truth is that to attract what you want, beyond any belief that you are unworthy, unlucky, or undeserving the greater wisdom is to shirt to a trust that you are whole already and that you are not a powerless victim of circumstance. In the face of any challenges, the key to claiming your authentic power and being masterful in the “inside out approach” to life is to be a chooser not a reactor - not going down the road of fear or despair.
It is true that we often do not have a choice about the circumstances of what happens in our life, but we do have a choice about our response to these circumstances. That is all that is meant by being responsible for your life….”the ability to respond”. I am not advocating denying the feelings of your experience, but you can choose the perception of your experience. From the perspective of a chooser, any frustration, anger, worry, and even depression can be a door way to surprising opportunities, expansive insights and true growth. In fact, what seems like a break down can become a break through.
A few weeks ago, I experienced a particularly “hard” week with a series of challenges (problematical business issues, a fender bender, difficult conversations). None of the things that happened were actually devastating but, taken all together, by the end of the week I felt beat up and emotionally drained. I was tempted to fold my tent, blame it on Mercury-in-Retrograde and retreat from the world for the weekend. But I knew that the real issue was to re-align to what was working in my life rather than focus on what was not. Instead of constricting, I allowed the difficult feelings around my week to be a wake up call to expand. So that weekend, I took the following action steps:
- I chose to go a friend’s birthday party and met lovely people with whom I had uplifting conversations.
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I chose to attend Dr. Beckwith’s Agape spiritual community for inspiration.
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I chose to recommit with renewed energy to my daily practice of meditatively going within.
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I chose to record in my “receiving” journal what I was grateful for each day.
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I chose to be out in nature more to remind myself about the essential abundant nature of everything.
My choices literally rebooted my life experience, and, by the following Monday, I was restored and rejuvenated, ready to optimistically be in the flow of what was happening in my experience. I knew that my choices would guarantee positive outcomes or, at the very least, create positive solutions for challenges… and it has worked out that way. My “hard” week was the best thing that has happened to me in awhile.
When you know that your point of power is to be a chooser, you won’t be seduced by discouraging worldly or personal circumstances. You are bigger than the events of your life. Rather than feeling mired in any problem, you become the solution to your life’s unfolding. You have the same choice that I did when faced with challenges… to expand rather than contract…to be a glass half full kind of person rather than succumb to doom and gloom predictions. Essentially you say “YES” to life !!
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Get support for being a chooser in your life now !!
I included quite a few of my personal life enhancing choice strategies in my story above. And, if you want immediate tangible support to be a chooser, please join me and my colleague, Elyse Killoran, for our free live Energy Attunement session next Tuesday evening, 6/24/08, at 9:00 PM ET entitled “Being At Choice”. Learn more here
“If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.” ~ Robert Fritz
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